Do you tend to attract friends born under a particular sign?
If so, there’s a very good astrological reason for it.
Over the course of my life, this Sun-sign Capricorn has consistently attracted people born under the signs of Pisces, Sagittarius and Cancer.
Why are these signs so prominent in my life? The answer is found in my birth chart.
More specifically, it’s revealed by the zodiac signs that rule my 3rd, 7th and 11th houses—the ones that rule relationships in the horoscope.
Each one describes a different type of social relationship.
✧ The 3rd house describes our side-by-side relationships, such as neighbors, siblings
and cousins
✧ The 7th house describes our committed one-on-one relationships, which includes marriage, business and life partners, and best friends
✧ The 11th house describes our group relationships, colleagues, peers and acquaintances
In my horoscope, Cancer rules my 3rd house, Sagittarius rules my 7th house and Pisces rules my 11th houses, which accounts for three of the four zodiac signs that I have routinely attracted throughout my life.
However, while these signs are present and accounted for in my life, my relationships with them don’t carry the same weight.
While I’ve enjoyed friendships with many born under the Crab, those unions were rooted in mutual interests, shared activities and common objectives, which aligns with the intellectual nature of the 3rd house.
In contrast, the 7th house is about deeply committed relationships. These are our best friends. The ones we confide in and willingly drop everything for when they need help.
Sagittarius is on my 7th house, and that was the sign of my very first best friend. I still have a number of Sagittarius people in my life, and while I consider one of them to be a close friend,
my best friends aren’t Centaurs.
They’re Fish.
That may sound odd given that Pisces rules my 11th house of colleagues, but it actually makes perfect astrological sense.
With Sagittarius on my 7th house, Jupiter is the planetary ruler of my best friends and happens to be conjunct (blending energies with) Neptune, the planet that represents Pisces, which also explains why every single one of my Centaur friends has a Pisces Moon or Ascendant.
To take it a step even further, the planetary rulers of my 7th house of best friends (Jupiter) and my 11th house of colleagues (Neptune) are united in my 6th house of work and service.
Where have I met my best friends? I met the first one while working as colleagues on a school newspaper and the the rest through work.
That’s why when you’re considering the signs that are prominent in your life, it’s important to remember that they may show up as an Ascendant or Moon sign.
Whether they are personal or professional, platonic or romantic, casual or committed, every relationship in your life can be found in your horoscope. The key is knowing where to look for them, and the relationship houses are the best place to start.
My eleventh house is ruled by Pluto and all my closest relationships have been with Scorpios and those with strong Scorpio placements. Funny, I'd never noticed that before, although I wondered why a Gemini would be so drawn to Scorpios.
My seventh has the later degrees of Gemini on the cusp. I don't have any Gemini friends but I did get into a scrape with a Gemini a couple years ago at work and I continue to have a strong dislike of her. She's a double Gemini and I can see all those negative traits in her (so I've done some self examination as a result)
I also have a very long time Aries friend with a Gemini Asc. and Venus whom I was once very very close with but her drug and alcohol abuse has caused a serious rift in our relationship.
I was wondering. My closest friends all have or have had drug and alcohol abuse issues. Is that in my chart or just a result of growing up where and when I did?
Although Pluto can bring in friends connected to the seamier side of life, check your aspects to Neptune and your 12th house to see if any connect to your 7th or 11th houses.
My Neptune is in Scorpio (no major aspects to the seventh or eleventh)It is about five or six degrees away from the cusp of the eleventh, if that matters.
Does Neptune aspect the ruler of the of either house?
I got here via the Dispatch and just had to come comment. Very interesting article!
My dearest and longest friendships have always been Geminis (and, in fact, I have a Gemini BFF I've known since we were 5), though Taurus is on my 11th cusp. I also have Chiron in the 11th, which I mention because…
I'm inordinately attracted to Scorp risings who invaribly have my best friends' suns in their 7th houses, and it's definitely an unhealable wound scenario.
Astrology is so interesting, and sometimes convoluted, but so scarily accurate at times. *laughs*
Cheers!
Thank you for stopping by Genevieve (and thanks to Elsa for her wonderful Dispatch). You say Taurus is on your 11th – I'm curious as to whether it's in the early degrees (and Gemini makes up much of the 11th) or if those Gemini Suns fall in your karmic 12th house. T
according to Astrodienst, in one section it says I have Jupiter (my 12th house ruler) conjunct Neptune. But the orb is so wide, like 10 degrees…both in the late 10th house. It seems too wide to be considered a conjunct to me. I also have Mercury (sign on my 7th house cusp, opposite Neptune. I think I read somewhere once to beware of treacherous friendships. I certainly have been disappointed by friends due to substance abuse and the self-centered behaviour that results from it. I love these people still and try to help but I don't confide in them as much as they do me. I guess I don't trust their judgment.
I agree that the orb is way too wide for a conjunction. However, with your 7th house ruler – Mercury – being opposed by Neptune, there's the influence. Whenever we attract addictive personalities or "broken wings" into our lives, Neptune is usually involved.
Wow, I've always wondered and have look at my chart but never saw that. Astrology keeps getting more and more interesting as the years roll on! Thanks again Debra
We tend to not see things in our own charts. I'll never forget an astrologer friend of mine talking about my Pluto squaring the Ascendant. Maybe I saw it and was in denial, but it came as a surprise to me. Now if it was someone else's chart….
Hello Debra! I stumbled across your blog while doing my own research in Astrology and I found it extremely infotmative! 😀
I have Aries in the 11th but there are no planets in there. My 7th falls under Sagittarius with Uranus and Neptune conjuncting in it. My sun is in Scorpio which conjuncts Pluto and Mars in the 5th.
My closest friend is a Scorpio sun and I feel like we are twin souls or something. There’s a cinnection there that neither of us could not understand. We were HS batchmates but we never talked to each other not until we were classmates in college. We instantly clicked!
My other close friends are Aries, Leo, Aquarius, Libra, Capricorn and Gemini suns. (I don’t see the connection between Aqua suns to me though)
Romantically, I attract Scorpio and Sagittarius suns but for some reason, I don’t seem to be attracted to those specific guys. However, I tend to be attracted to Cancer, Scorpio, Saguttarius and Aries men. I can’t figure out why I’m not attracted to those attracted to me.
I’m a Scorpio sun, Pisces moon and Gemini Ascendant btw 🙂
The reason you’re not attracted to those who are attracted to you is because romantic compatibility is much more than the sun, moon and asacendant. The cross aspects between Venus and Mars play a significant role, as are connections from Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto in one person’s chart to the ascendant and personal planets – sun, moon, mercury,venus and mars. Likewise, where one person’s planets fall in your chart makes a difference. For example, if someone’s Jupiter falls in your 1st or 5th house, you naturally enjoy being with them because they make you feel good about yourself. You just haven’t met the right one yet but when you do, you’ll know it!
Loving the website and comments! 🙂
I notice I tend to attract Virgos (which rules my 11th house) and Tauruses (7th house cusp, Chiron Rx) both romantically and in friendship. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why I (Scorpio) do not get along with Aries. It’s like World War 3. I’m betting its all the Scorpio in my chart, as well as 1st house dominants. Aries is also on the 6th house cusp for me. I have been doing temp work for years, HATE working, and am preparing to be self employed. I’m also wondering if I steer clear of Aries because it’s quincunx my sun. Either way, as you said, Debra, they make better business partners (for me) than they do friends.
The quincunx is definitely part of the equation, and if you have first house planets that adds even more of an Aries quality. When it comes to interacting with Aries, it becomes an issue of who’s the boss. Both Aries and Scorpio do well in self-employment as neither one likes being supervised or told what to do. ; )